Tuesday, June 13, 2006

SIGN OF THE TIMES : Buhay Alamang; Part I

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Bringing up a family in RP is both fun and a challenge considering the struggling economy of the country. Here are some family snapshots illustrating the situation:

Every Sunday when visiting our daughters in Quezon City, the whole family sometimes would have the opportunity to dine out, but not to expensive eateries. "Do not worry, Pa," Sabrie quipped. " The golden rule when reading the menu in a restaurant is - if you cannot pronounce it, you cannot afford it." #

Cathy explaining the price tags on food in a restaurant. "This is good for you, Pa. It's a revolutionary new diet plan. It ruins your appetite." #

Upon leaving Fridays, they heard me quipped, "You could not have more of it, and still you cannot live without it." Bing lovingly reacted, "Yes, I know that the cold draft beer here is just that good. But you cannot have more than a mug full, Pa. Remember, you are still driving back to Tarlac." Sabrie snarled, " Who told you that your father is thinking of the beer, he's talking about his credit cards." #

Sabrie and I saw to it that the girls would have a real working kitchen at their small home in QC. She taught them how to cook by themselves instead of eating out or having home delivery from nearby K of C, Greenwich or Big Mac. One night, supper consisted of leftovers and Eloy offered this grace: "Bless this food and the hands that repaired it. Amen."#

Ten-ten bargaining for allowance increase, sobbing to me, "You don't love us anymore, Pa. When you see us lonely, you don't ask why." Sabrie blurted out, "Hoy bata ka, tumigil ka nga diyan. Huwag mo ngang artihan yang Papa mo. The last time he asked that question it cost him so much money." #

"I heard you right, Pa, that money isn't everything- but also remember to make a lot of it before talking such fool none sense." Bombing retorted.#

Sabrie was so concerned on the rising monthly telephone bills. "Ate Ten, you should run for congress, You are very good at introducing new bills in the house," cracked Eloy.#

Just arrived from his class, Mark declared, "I just learned that people can be divided into 2 classes - the 'Haves' and the 'Have Nots'. " Sabrie responded, " Not only 2, Mark. There's this 3rd category in this country: the 'Have-Not-paid-For-What-They-Haves'." #

Sabrie and I were planning a budget. I declared, "Let's start with the basic necessities- food, clothing, education and shelter." Sabrie agreed, "Yes, but by the looks of it, we have only a choice of any three." #

Sa wakas, I taught my children the value of a peso. Now they want their weekly allowance in US dollars. Naku po, naloko na. # DSV

A SPECIAL GIRL OF THE LORD: Our dear BING

By: Danny S. Villanueva

All of us as individual creation of God are special to our Maker. As a parent, one of the amazing part of my life is to see the hands of the Lord directing and shaping the life of my children. On her birthday, today, allow me to share with you some snapshots on the life of my daughter, Mary Claire, aka Bombing or Bing, who is always in God's wonderful hands.

· When I enrolled Ten-ten, her sister, who was 6 then, at the Yamaha School of Music in Buendia, Makati, Bing likewise showed interest to play the piano. In due time, she was enrolled, too and played very well at 5 years of age. Sabi nga, she would read the musical notes better than the alphabets. After 6 months, she gave a recital with the rest of the students of Yamaha. I would say the she was the youngest among then.

· When Bing was in grade I up to II at St. Joseph Catholic School in Gagalangin, Tondo, her grades were not that really good. She complained about not being able to hear and see the class discussion. Sabrie was able to ask her teacher to have her seated in front thinking that she might not have the right focus during classes. Still her problem persisted. What came to our mind was to get her eyes and ears checked by an EENT doctor. The good eye doctor immediately noticed her failing eyesight. She was immediately given corrective glasses that were so thick that time (700 level). Behold… aside from the eyesight, her hearing immediately improved greatly. Her grades soared up and in God's time and became a consistent honor student, top of the class up to grade V.

In 1990, I have to go to Tarlac to put up my new manufacturing company then. Sabrie and I decided that we bring the whole family to Tarlac together with Tatay and Nanay (well, Tatay and Nanay decided later to stay in Tondo, this is another beautiful story). Ten just graduated in elementary and the others were still in the lower grades. But Bing, an honor student would be graduating that year with possibility of being the salutatorian or valedictorian. If we would transfer her that school year to Tarlac, she would lose that much sought honor and this was a possible problem with her. But not really a problem. She seemed very obedient to us with no qualms at all. All of us, particularly Sabrie and me, might have said "sayang" for the great school honors intended for her. She knew the consequences. That early tender age, she gave out love, self-denial and charity to others, in God's loving grace, to give way to a higher need: togetherness of family in Tarlac.

· In no time, I was able to get all the kids to the College of the Holy Spirit-Tarlac (the first CHS in the country). Transferring them to CHS was not that easy. Thanks to some help from our new friends in Tarlac (wife of the Governor and the owner of the bungalow we're renting). For Bing, it was not smooth sailing then. The school registrar hesitated to accept her for their policy would not allow transfer of graduating students. So I asked personally to take her in as an exceptional case. With my persistence, the Sis. Rector intervened and agreed to accept Bing as long she would pass the 2 validating exams: for grade V (test for promotion to gradeVI) and for grade VI ( for promotion to 1st year high school) to be given on that day. I agreed and prayed, though I have confidence on Bing and faith on God's saving grace. She passed them, with flying colors. She noted that the questionnaires carried "printed in the USA. I told her that those were IQ exams. The Rector was happy to get her in.

· Bing excelled in her studies with very good grades. She knew all the while that she would not be able to receive any honors upon graduation in elementary for she would lack the required number of years of stay in CHS. She breezed through high school of the CHS with excellent grades, always on the top 5 of her class in the cream section. She did most of the caricatures and art work for their Year Book. During her graduation, no academic honor was given her. No problem, for lo and behold, the school gave her special recognition as the school official organist for Holy Masses. During the graduation ceremonies, she played well and brought the whole congregation to a seemingly glorious celebration with the Lord. Thank you Lord.

· She passed the entrance exam in UP-Diliman that many of the honored students from CHS-Tarlac, Don Bosco Institute-Tarlac (also the 1st Don Bosco in RP) and the Tarlac State University tried but failed. Though she's good in English, math, science and social studies, she preferred to take up Fine Arts, her first love. As part of the Fine Arts enrolment requirement, a "talent" exam has to be passed, so we brought her for such test. We came late at about 10 am. We learned that the exam started at 7 am. She was allowed to take the exam and completed all the required drawings in no time, almost at the same time with the rest. I saw that her rendition were much better than the rest (o bias lang ako). After a couple of days, she learned that she failed the said exam. She noticed that she failed to print her name on all the plates she made. Wow, mali! Reflecting- that was not the plan of the Lord for her.

· The good UP lady registrar allowed her to further choose other courses (normally not done). With my guidance, she chose Landscape Architecture- maraming drawing din yun. So be it and we enrolled her. Came the need to get her to have a dorm inside the campus- mas mura pa kaysa sa labas ng campus, within distance to the school buildings and most specially, I would not like her to commute that long travel- considering her poor eye sight.

The prerequisite for a student to be accepted to the UP dormitories are: the student must be an honor student, from a poor family, from a public school. I submitted my income tax return (true copy; would not classify as poor for the average native). The Sampaguita dorm administrator politely told me during the interview of the parents' applicants that she could not accept us for failing to meet the requirements. I told her that Bing is a brilliant and very talented child but with very poor eyesight with glasses of 700 grade. Allowing her to commute from Tondo (Ten was staying then in Bugallon) to UP and back, would expose her to various dangers. Naawa naman siya and processed her admission papers. Thanks God.

· Bing excelled in all her subjects except PE (but this is another trying story, but overcame eventually). She hesitated to immediately jump into working her thesis, a prerequisite for graduation. She thought that she needed another semester or a year to work on it, just like the rest of her friends and other graduating students. I persuaded her to do it on time. I eventually helped her go through all the rudiments of completing a real good thesis- research, going around meeting resource persons, taking photos, interviews and proving and pacing the site. With many and long sleepless nights, her friends helped her, too. The rest was history, she passed with high grades during a formal presentation, complete with all the modern and creative presentation tools and materials (also we got Manila Catering Service for the foods and drinks). During the question and answer, I was kind of tempted to help answer difficult questions but she was cool, composed, prepared and handled everything superbly. The Holy Spirit was all the time with her. Thanks Lord.

· When she was looking for an architectural company to complete some number of hours on-the- job experience as a prerequisite for taking the govt. board exam, she was hired instead by the top landscape architectural firm in the country. Then again, she hesitated to immediately take the board and to delay it to next year. She felt unprepared for the board exam right after talking with her lady boss-partner (UP grad, too) about the possibility of passing. I impressed on her to immediately go for the board exam. Obediently, she filed for a short leave to review for the board and review she did well with her friends. The rest was history. She just topped the board examination. Her lady boss later left the firm. Bing eventually occupied her office and absorbed her responsibilities, too. Thank you, Lord for making it happen for Bing, and for us, too. Praise you Lord Jesus.

Happy birthday, our dear Bing! Anak, keep up the good work in Jesus name always (the secret of success). # DSV

A "THIEF" FROM ROME

By: Danny S. Villanueva

(September 1992 Diary) Bamban, Tarlac was indeed a desolate town as a result of the devastation caused by the lahar from Mt. Pinatubo's eruption. The continuous rain further worsens the situation. That was we saw with Sabrie, the 2 Rotary Anns- Betty and May and Fr. Dodje, who came to town the other Sunday from Rome to have a closer look at the worsening condition of our home province. We saw the continuous evacuation of families along the lahar and flooded paths to save their lives and remaining properties.

The Trek to Bamban that day was not that easy because of the flood and the soft and thick lahar that cascaded through the town's main roads. The worst that could happen in going through these risky courses was to get stuck in the mad, and boy did we, not only once but twice in a row. That's how persistent the group was to get closer to the "once upon a river" which was filled up with lahar now, that towers over the village. Thanks to the villagers who came to the rescue and pushed Betty's gutsy L200 pickup to safety.

Everyone was barefoot, save for May, who stuck with her white socks and sneakers, waded through the flood up to the famous "river." Betty provided Fr. Dodje with interesting backgrounder on Pinatubo's aftermath while Sabrie and May roamed the great dessert-like "river." After awhile, overwhelmed with what we saw, we went back to our vehicle only to be faced with another real serious problem. Of the real and imagined carelessness a driver, that was me, could do was to leave the car inside a locked car. Betty got no spare key. Everybody looked real worried. "Pahiya si ako." Betty started to mill around asking for locksmith among the villagers while our good missionary priest tinkered his way trying to unlock the car door. Soon enough, as May jokingly declared, "It takes a 'thief' from Rome to open the lock!" How Dodje did it? That's another story, a proprietary one.

Very relieved, our group hit the flooded road for home. On our way, we met with our friends from the Red Cross and said to me, "So you see what we have here." "Yes, we did, with a little help from our friendly 'thief' from Rome." DSV

25 Years of Married Life: As Our Lord Jesus Christ Planned It

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Let me share this with you. Sabrie and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last May 27, 2001. I cannot help but pray, reflect and realize that how our ever loving God, the Great Architect… the Master Builder of my loving family…. planned all of it…. to its finest detail. Do Sabrie and I, for our many weaknesses and errors, merit a life that is planned by the best and wisest Planner in the whole world? But Jesus love is for all His creation… no matter what. He corrects all our wrong decisions and the wrong turns we take, and always brings us to the right path. Praises and thanks to you Lord.

What a wonderful thought, neh! We found out that we: 10-10, Bing, Cathy, Eloy, Mark, Sabrie and me… are not insignificant at all! Actually, we are important enough to have God attend to us seriously… lovingly… every moment of our life. What an inspiring thought how good our God to His creation. Thank you Lord.

Our married life could be a mess or a masterpiece. Looking back… it could have been a great mess if we considered ourselves master and architect of it. Our 25 years married life seems to be now a wonderful masterpiece that have been reworked, patched up, cleaned up, straightened, refurbished, restored in God’s saving graces… up to this time… since we continue to labor with it… with the love, caring and prayers of our kins and friends… as the Master Designer of it intended so. We found out that God works wonderfully through people, too.

Let me, Sabrie and our children not be discouraged or deceived at all… that the fashioning of our family life and its fruits is in the power of our skills, education, luck and wisdom. We can really do nothing better than placing everything to God’s divine molding hands and wisdom. This is wonderful family life in God…. a family vocation as our Heavenly Father planned it for all of us… as His promise…. for His glory and people’s joyful salvation. Praises and thanks to you Lord God.

Lord, lead us to the next 25 years of family life…. in your Sacred Heart…. if you intended so. Also, Lord, do the same for all our brothers, sisters, relatives and friends who continue to help and inspire us; keep them in your Sacred Heart.. in love, joy, peace of family life. Glory to you Lord Jesus Christ. Amen. DSV #

Cool Baratillo!

By: Danny S. Villanueva

As I was shopping for mechanical presses in Seoul, Korea in February 1990, it was winter. I could not resist trying on a look-alike B-42 Bomber Pilot leather jacket in a leather shop at Itaewon, a tourist belt area. When the $250 price caused me to shy away, the good Korean sales clerk started to bargain. Hindi niya alam barat ako, sanay yata ito sa Divisoria.

Finally, after checking with someone in the backroom, she offered me the coat for $200 if I would tell everyone I knew about the store and its location. It was still too much, and the exasperated clerk asked me to make an offer. I proposed $100. After another trip to the backroom, she said yes, under one condition: that I would not tell anyone where the store was. #

PS: I gave the pilot jacket to Kuya Noli in one of his visit since there's no winter in RP. I guess, he likes it since it carried a black and white photo of Marlyn Monroe in the inside. Dg

SIGN OF THE TIMES : Buhay Alamang; Part 2- My Solomonic Sabrina

By: Danny S. Villanueva



Sabrie and I are sometimes hopeless with the usual chores required to maintain an orderly household. Once, when the handle of a faucet broke, she asked me to fix it. After a half-hour of effort, I concluded that the easiest solution would be to leave the pliers by the sink and turn the tap with them each time water was needed. When I told her of my brilliant plan, she brightened. "Oh, good, " she said. "And I'll borrow your daughters' stapler." "What for?" I asked. "I've got your buttons to sew and that hole in your pocket to fix and ….." I bought a new faucet handle in a jippy. #Dg


Upon arrival at home, I was eager to please Sabrie by forcing a demonstration on the merits of the new and cheap Korean brand vacuum cleaner I just bought from the Duty Free shop at Clark Field. First, I scattered coffee grounds all over the floor and said to her, "Alam mo, Ma, I'll eat every bit of that stuff that my new super-duper vacuum cleaner doesn't pick up." Upon seeing this, Sabrie started to rush to get something. "Where are you going?" I called her. "Para kumuha ng kutsara, ano pa," she replied. "We have not had any electricity since two hours ago." Naloko na. # Dg

In the evenings, I like to go around wearing my old, butas-butas na white de-hilo T-shirt which Sabrie saved as my favorite and most comfortable pantulog. One night, I answered a ring at the gate and found our lady neighbor standing there. "I stopped by to tell Sabrie that it will be a few more weeks I can pay the P2,000 I owe her," she explained. Embarrassed at the realization that I was wearing a "rag" kind of shirt, I said to her, "Oh, that's alright. I've been wearing this kind of shirt for so long now that I am used to it." Next day, the woman was back with the money. #Dg

Here in our home in Tarlac, we have fruit trees (kayomito/star apple, santol, chico, duhat and mabolo) in the yard. At the backside of our yard we have our Korean neighbor's mango (Sabrie's favorito) tree very close to our fence. Does the fruit belong to the owner of the land on which the tree grows or to the neighbor on whose land the fruit falls? This age-old question was resolved neatly by my Solomonic wife, Sabrina. As Mayette, our maid, collected the mangos that had fallen on our side of the fence, our neighbor's maid came over and said that she had intended gathering the mangos herself. Mayette complained to Sabrie. "That's fine," agreed Sabrie. That she added, "Tell the neighbor's maid not to forget to pick up the leaves, too." Ayos. #Dg

Every year during the Tarlac fiesta, the long stretch of Tanedo Street on both sides is converted to a flea market. Sabrie would bring along her close lady friends joyfully to shop around. Sabrie came into a kitchen utensil shop and told the saleslady that she had P500 to spend. She began selecting inexpensive items until she had a carton of items: kawali, sandok, butcher's knife, tadtaran, pangkayod ng yelo, etc. After a few price adjustments, the good saleslady told her that her selections would come exactly P500. As Sabrie handed the money all in one bill, she said, "I'd like a centavo change please." The saleslady looked puzzled, for Sabrie went on: "When my husband gave me the P500 this morning and he said, 'Don't spend all of it!' Now when I get home, I can honestly tell him I didn't. He doesn’t need to know how close I was." #Dg

Cooling One’s Top

By: Danny S. Villanueva

The heat is on. One can blow his top because of the sweltering weather we are in nowadays. Wow. We just got to cool our tops, guys. You, bet Ditse, aside from putting ice on our heads, the next popular thing to do for men as countermeasure is to get that Ricky Martin haircut. Or better, try the Kojak or “Kooljak” no hairstyle. Imagine if all the Pinoys get such bald look. It will just be too bald on one hand. On the other hand, there will be fewer hotheads on the streets of Tondo. Gee- cool men, peace man, cool hegg’eads. Hahaha.

For the likes of Pugos and Togos, for many summers now, they have been enjoying a cool top. For me, it was getting cooler as time goes by. But recently, to speed up the process, I just got my airforce crewcut back and enjoy more cool feeling on top. However, it will take awhile before I could reach the same high degree of cooling satisfaction of the calbos and the likes. For them, a hothead is a thing of the past. Right, Jun, we call these cool men as Coolbo. In the middle east, they are popularly called Arabohok.

Looking back when we were kids, Nanay and Tatay would alternate giving us (Kuya Noli maintained the steel brush look-bagsak ang butiki, paktaylo na; Dodje and me glued the ambok with so much Dixie Peach;) the “white side wall” haircut every 2 weeks. That was cool and neat, man! Then, when I was a yuppy then, Ditse would happily (pinagpapractisan) trim my hair every now and then for my usual prim look, naks. That was really cute. Ditse would always come in handy for that personal need and save me a lot of pesos. Those good things are gone now. I have to contend now with barbers who are also practitioners of karate and physical therapy. Ouch, my neck…my back…araguy.

Ditz, how about the girls, how can you cool your heads during simmer? Ahhhsoooo, magpayong na lang kasi at huwag magpacoolbo. Hahahaha. DSV

EDSA II to EDSA III: What you sow, is what you get…. This is mob rule anew!

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Once more with feeling… with moaning… with crying….. with yelling, with dancing, with singing….PEOPLE POWER III or EDSA III is happening right now. It is another mob festival in the making. It is more intense than EDSA II. There are 5 times more people participation this time and still growing every day. Today is the 4th day of the nonstop rally at EDSA Shrine. The class D and E are in the middle of it all as they call it- POOR PEOPLE POWER.

But the GMA-CORY-SIN-RAMOS-NDF(reds) alliance seems napipikon na and calls the now people power as ERAP Loyalists’ ERAPOWER. Their controlled press are having news black out of this great news worthy event, trying to belittle it. The major TV networks do not cover fully the current event as they claimed to be harassed by the demonstrators. Well, you cannot blame them… since these media were seen to be biased during EDSA II. But at this time, the people were instructed not to hurt the media. Net 25, owned by the Iglesia ni Cristo is the only TV and radio network covering the event.

Cardinal Sin calls the rallying people to be trespassing and telling everyone that the EDSA Shrine is a private property of the Church. It is like Sin saying: Keep out, this is my turf. People Power is originally mine alone. Hahaha. The clergy and administration are seen not to be smiling… but more of trembling… in fear of being booted out as what they did with Erap….. a people’s coup is hanging over their heads…. Sabi nga ng iba.

The people’s great lamentation: Disregard of the Phil. Constitution and By-Laws in handling Pres. Estrada’s impeachment and GMA’s ascension to presidency, the “overkill” procedure in arresting and jailing Pres. Estrada, the elite’s abused of power, the clerico-politico dynasty, worsening economy, etc. Ibalik si Erap sa Malacanang and Gloria resign- now they shout.

The Police and the Military are seemed divided now. The Senators and Congressmen who we saw at EDSA II stage are back to show their faces and wares at EDSA III giving sympathetic words. Balimbingan is back also. Hahaha.

Text messaging (claimed to be the tool of EDSAII) by celfone by the elite are not working well this time unlike EDSA II. The poor folks do not have the expensive celfones. You don’t find starbucks coffee cups around or the bottled water this time. Instead a water tank truck provides water to demonstrators. What a contrast.

Similar mass actions are also happening in other parts of the country like Davao, Cebu and Bicol. O-Oh…. With Sunday, Monday (ipit, holiday) and Tuesday (May 1- Labor Day, holiday), we expect more actions. Abangan.

We pray that this deepening political experience will bring all of us Filipinos to a renewed democratic sanity where we can work clearly toward a more lasting peace and unity in our country, in the glory and love of our God- Jesus Christ, our Father and Savior. Mary Help of Christians, pray for all of us. Amen #DSV

Golfers Degulat All!

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Summer Vacation 2005: At breakfast one Saturday morning in San Jose, Tonino suddenly announced that he did not have to go to the office that morning.

"Listen," said Pearl, don't think you are going to run off and play golf today with Noli and Danny and leave the garden dry, not watered."

"Golf is the farthest thing from our minds," Tonino protested. "Danny, will you pass the putter, please?"

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Dutifully, Tonino, Noli and Danny passed by the community garden to water the vegetable garden and then proceeded to the Golf and Country Club. Danny appeared on the golf course complete with new golf shirts, khaki pants, golf bag and a set of expensive clubs courtesy of Noli and Tonino. He stepped to the first tee and proceeded to send the ball well into the rough of a Par 4. Good drive.

"Which club will you take now?" asked his caddy. Surveying the situation for a moment, Danny replied, "The $400 one, please."
- o -

Then, Noli stepped to the tee and took a mighty swing and his long drive was a hole in one. Wow! Tonino stepped to the tee and said, "All right, now I'll take my practice swing, and then we'll start the game."
- o -

Tonino had been having a terrible time with his game that day. First he sliced his ball into some bushes, then into a trap, then across the road. Finally, he hit it deep into the bush field. He went looking for the ball, but couldn't find it. "Why not forget it?" asked his caddie.

"No way, " said Tonino. "That's my lucky ball!"
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Over dinner that day, Tonino told Pearl that he finally had a winning day. "Congratulations. Did you break 80?" Pearl asked. "No," he admitted. "But I finally found more golf balls than I lost."

Father's Day Special: If Memory Serves

By: Danny S. Villanueva

August 2030, San Jose, Ca., a family reunion. Tonino, Rol, Noli, Danny and Dodje are talking about the inconveniences of growing old.

" Sometimes," Tonino confessed, "when I go to the refrigerator, I cannot remember if I am putting something in or taking something out."

"Oh, that's nothing," said Rol. "There are times when I find myself at the foot of the stairs wondering if I am going up or if I have just come down."

"Hahaha! Same here," admitted Noli. "Every time I parked my car in a big parking lot, it takes me hours to find it."

"Me, too!" Danny asserted. "This is really embarrassing. Sabrie would always correct me for not remembering correctly the names of my children."

"Well, thank goodness I am not married like you guys. See how marriage and old age can do to your memory! " Dodje happily exclaimed. "I am certainly glad I don't have any problems like that," and he knocks on wood. "Oh," Dodje said, standing up out of his chair, "there's someone at the door." DSV

REMINISCING… Part II: KUYA NOLI … HAJI …. SMOKED SALMON, ….atba.

By: Danny S. Villanueva

As a loving tribute to our dear Kuya Noli on birthday this August 22, I'd like to recall and print memorable events that continue to hang beautifully in my mind before they become totally obscure in time:

· (Flashback: Very early 70's) Kuya Noli's job as a young accountant working as an external auditor with Carlos J. Valdez, CPA, allowed him to go to remotest places in Mindanao particularly in those companies indulging in forestry and wood products. I could recall some of the places he went to like Santa Clara, Kulambugan and Davao. Upon arrival from such assignment, we would listen to him with excitement about the thrills of his adventures in those places- log cabins in the forests, the Muslim people, etc.

In Davao, he would see Kuya Rey and Ate Gonyang every now and then. Kuya Rey would allow him to drive their family car- Taurus sedan, around Davao. I remember that one of Kuya Rey's son was
given by Kuya a Muslim moniker- Haji. In his travels in those places in the south, he would bring home beautiful hand made gongs, urns/jars and wall decors made of brass. At home, on weekend, Kuya would clean and shine very well these brass items until they would glitter like gold. I think Kuya used "sukang maasim" (vinegar) to clean them. Those brass decors made the sala of the bahay interesting and radiantly beautiful in my eyes.

· (Flashback: Early 70's) Then there was this period when Kuya, as an external auditor, covered the strip joints along Roxas Boulevard (Dewey Blvd. then): clubs and cocktail lounges with casinos. He would bring Nanay and Tatay and some members of the family to play in the casinos (saling cats lang… pamparami nang naglalaro). They would talk about this experience joyfully: the food fare, wines (Cold Duck, Dry Martini, etc.) and the box of cigarettes Tatay and Nanay loved most-Salem to bring home.

When I was a young project Engineer at PIECO, Pasong Tamo Ext., Makati, Kuya Noli would sometimes pick me up before lunch at the office and bring me to the casino-club for lunch. What a wonderful break from the office. Boy, I was always eager and thrilled to go with him to this kind of places because I would have a big steak for lunch with a glass of wine on the side. By 2 pm, I would be back in the office with a "pabitbit pa-" a box of Salem cigarette to share some with my friends in the office and yung iba para kay Tatay at Nanay. That time, "blue seal" cigarettes were something to brag about among friends. I smoked almost all kinds of cigarettes that time (pati Layebana ni Manang), but not that much. Ganuun din si Kuya. That time, we smelled delicious (not delirious), like …. smoked salmon from Salem USA, …. pag napa sobra…. amoy tinapang binili sa…. talipapa.

· (Flashback: Late 70's) When Kuya Noli was working with Packaging Products Phils., an affiliate of Rustans, as the manager for credit and collection department, he would every now and then invite me and Nelson Ocampo (a friend from Herdis group, who I met in the airforce annual active duty training; now staying in the East Coast) to join him for the weekly drinking spree with his group of collectors. Pag naka target sila sa collection, the more compulsion to celebrate together, sabi nga. To come prepared and before Nelson and I see them, we passed by Nichols (Villamor now) Air Base to pick up several bottles of liquors at the commissary. Kuya would let us know where to meet (one time sa Sucat near their office), and together we'd go to the appointed "kainan" venue.

He's the friendly Boss among his peers and he would always make way for me and Nelson to be at ease with his group. He was loved by his co-employees and subordinates. NO, we did not go home lashiinnnggg…..kunti laahhnnggg… isah paahh gani… hic(kory duck)…actually, sa dami ng pulutan, bundat ako sa busog. I was driving then a blazing, sporty, tangerine company car- Isuzu Gemini (with cockpit lights, kuno) and I would drop Nelson at his home along Dimasalang (gumugulong siyang bumaba sa taba niya). Kuya was driving then the elegant green Toyota Crown (bought from Tiyo Publing). Kung may Karaoke nuon, pihadong kantahan pa (hindi pa makakanta ni Kuya yung My way, kasi hindi pa na-cocompose ni Paul Anka at that time). Ang passes ko sa bahay pag-uwi, "kasama ko si Kuya." Buti na lang, malakas si Sabrie kay Kuya Noli and vice versa (hehehe).

Ooooopsss! Oh my, the worn out and out moded memory chips in my coconut just bogged down anew. Give me time, in due time ( sa Visaya… in dyutay lagi…) I'll be able to download more tidbits to share with you. Happy birthday, Kuya Noli!!!

Thank you Lord for having a loving Kuya Noli in our life. Please keep Kuya and his family always in your embrace, good Lord. Amen. # DSV

Nanay's Wonderful Healing

By: Danny S. Villanueva

As we commemorate Nanay's death anniversary this August, I would love to share with you the following:

Sickness and pain become so intense at times that we do not know how we can take any more suffering. It is in these moments that Jesus reassures us of His presence, sustains us and finally heals us. Our good Nanay went to this wonderful experience. Let me tell you her story.

I think it was in the early 80's that Nanay was diagnosed to have a unique kind of urinary track infection. She had persistent fever for months. The good head of the urology dept. of Manila Doctors, Dr. Januario Estrada, experimented with all sorts of antibiotics to no avail. Boy, the drugs were so expensive at times that made Dr. Estrada requested various foreign pharmaceuticals to provide him with samples to cure Nanay. Instead of Nanay going back and forth to the hospital, I was asked to give her the daily antibiotic injection at home. The urinary tract infection somehow abated. The doctor suspected that Nanay's diabetes complicates the healing process even though that her blood sugar was found at that time to be controlled.

After about one and a half-year of continued test and medication, a more intensive investigation followed until Dr. Estrada and his associates finally found a tumor growth close to her kidney that caused all the trouble. After further test and verification, Nanay and Tatay agreed to have her operated on immediately. On the day of her operation, Fr. Dodje arrived from Taiwan and saw her before she was brought to the operating room. Dodje laid hand on her and prayed for a couple of minutes while she was on the mobile stretcher-bed. Then, Dodje and I proceeded to the hospital chapel to continue to pray for Nanay. After less than an hour, we were surprised to see Nanay being wheeled out of the OR. The operation aborted as the surgeons could not find anymore the tumor upon check up with their special instrument prior to the knife. Thank you Lord God for the wonderful healing of Nanay. The next day, we happily checked out from the hospital without out any trace of tumor nor pus. Dr. Estrada just recommended a regular feminine wash for Nanay. Alleluia!

This is such a wonderful experience of what Jesus does for those who trust and persevere in Him in their suffering. He draws us to Himself and says that He will be with us in our suffering, in our pain, for nothing can separate us from His love (Rom. 8:39).

How often we pray for release, but no relief comes. The suffering persists, but we sense God's presence in our faithfulness to Him. He abides in our prayers, in His time, in His loving saving grace. What a miraculous healing of Nanay. Thank you, Jesus.

As I look back today, I can see how the Lord was with us, with Fr. Dodje, His dedicated co-worker, caring for us, meeting our deepest needs- joyfully, peacefully and in family. Thank you Holy Spirit for the gift of family.

There's so much similar stories to tell. The point is- no matter what painful situation we may face today, please remember that Jesus is holding us, in His loving embrace. Be joyful and faithful in any situation. For we know we can go through anything if we know Jesus is going with us. DSV

All about Pinoy’s May

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Flores De Mayo
· Kalabasa Flowers: dipped in mayonnaise, masarap!
· Dumayo man: the arrival of pretty girls para sa barn dance party sa basketball court;
· Flowered girls of Mayo Clinic: the gays of May

Santacrusan
· Sta. Cruz: Where you can get the best croussant
· The way you call a Japanese Christian
· Also the way the Japanese calls Santa Clause
· Parada ng mga baklang Reyna Elena

May 1
· Labor Day in RP: highest rate of maternity cases
· International freedom fighters Day: Divorcees’ jubilee celebration
· Welgang Bayan: Picnics at Plaza Miranda and Mendiola
· Town Fiesta sa T. Bugallon at Gagalangin: St. Joseph the Worker
· Workers wait for the President’s announcement on the increase in minimum wage: May 1 peso increase per day! Yehey!!!

Summer Break
· Bakasyon (beer) grande ng mga estudyante!
· Summer (love) classes ng mga estupidyante!
· Simmer at the beach: getting the tan;
· Summer money: additional funds for Halo-halo and Dirty ice cream
· Summer back breaker: more grueling trek to Baguio
· Dehins goli sa Baguio: walang tubig;

First Typhoon in May
Puro Kulog at kidlat: wala namang ulan, puro ingay lang
Hale storm: Butas ang bubong!
Brownout na naman: walang aircon, magpaypay na lang.
Baha: Mabubutas na naman ang mga kalye.

San Jose's LPGA: Lady Pearl Golfing Away!

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Last week, while Dorothy Delasin, a full-blooded Filipina teen-ager was campaigning for her first LPGA victory at the Giant Eagle LPGA Classic in Howland, Ohio, that she eventually won (she also won the US Women's Amateur golf championship last year), there's my sister Pearl Queen, another full-blooded Filipina beauty from San Jose City, Ca. honing her skills in golf. Kung dedelasdelasin ni Pearl ang pag-gogolf, baka ma-attain niya ang kahusayan ni Dorothy.

Pearl Queen says: I made "56" on 9 holes at Rancho del Pueblo. But no "daya" - no repeats. It is the old Thunderbird that has been renovated. It's now owned by the city of San Jose but ran by another group. It has driving range, putting green and 9 holes. We teed off early - 7:30am - no practice. We finished before 10AM and then practiced putting with commentary from Tonino (quite distracting) - then off to lunch at a Malaysian/Thai restaurant ("Banana Leaves").

Dan Villa says: Wow! Congratulations! Did Tonino play, too?

Pearl Queen says: Yes he did - but a little different playing with our friends Rudy and Flor. When they're not happy with their strokes, they repeat - and once or twice they encouraged Tonino to do the same. He obliged with one repeated stroke and if that was still bad, he took it.

Dan Villa says: That's OK, for friendly games. We do that here, too, as long we don't keep scores. What's the use, anyway.

Pearl Queen says: I think I was the only one who kept score (mine). Hahahaha! I hit straight balls most of the time - but my putting was a bit strong. I have to practice and improve my putting. I also had to get out of 2 sand traps - but I was fortunate that I got out with one stroke each time. Tonino tried playing a good game but he was distracted trying to guide/coach Flor.

Dan Villa says: Straight balls are good. Men's problem is the unintended slice. Is the golf course far from your home?

Pearl Queen says: About 15 minutes. Imade only 3 odd shots - one duck pond and 2 sand traps. While Flor's ball was landing behind the fat poste, behind the gardener's service cart, etc - funny. Gumigilid ang bola ni flor - 'cause she holds the driver like a baseball bat. Kaliwete pa siya. She wears gloves on both hands.

Dan Villa says: Do you have to have caddy with you?

Pearl Queen says: We started early. No need for caddy - no one around anyway. Hindi uso ang caddy dito - only on tournaments. But Flor and I had to rent the rolling golf bag cart so we could drag our golf bags around. There's no electric golf cart to play with. Hahaha.

Pearl Queen says: Then ang bigat nung golf bag ko. I tried to carry it at first - hindi ko kaya - later I found out - Tonino added some pieces to seemingly complete the set (but different brand) kaya pala mabigat. I told him to remove the extra pieces because male length naman yon - hindi ko rin magagamit. Tonino did not use a rolling cart - but his bag was of light material.

Dan Villa says: We use caddies to look for the lost balls. Hahaha!

Pearl Queen says: I lost only one ball - went to the water and too far to sungkit with my iron - so I took the penalty and hit a new ball from the side of the duck pond.

#DSV

One Great Escapade at Avenida Rizal

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Circa 70's: One beautiful sunny Sunday, Pearl, Dodje and I were aching to get out of the house to bond together, do something different and explore the world, whatever. This was supposed the day designed to do something different… for a change…for this sudden pursuit for joy and excitement ….after a long week of work and schooling (Dodje was still in college). We needed to unwind as an affirmation of our right to self-reward (kuno). A plan was discussed in hushed tones in a jippy and rightly, we jumped to implement it in no time.

That very morning, we told Nanay and Tatay casually that we would go to attend Holy Mass at Sta. Cruz and later to make "pasyal" to Avenida Rizal. Our trusting parents readily agreed. We attended the Holy Mass at the Blessed Sacrament Church in Plaza Goiti, Sta. Cruz. Right after the mass, we took a jeepney to Caloocan's Victory Bus station. After about 2 hours travel time, we found ourselves along Rizal Avenue in Olongapo City, Zambales.

We went to a restaurant and had a quick lunch. Not really familiar to the city of "night life," we strolled around the avenida. At that time, the city was frequented by American sailors because of the presence of the US naval base at Subic. What came to mind were the colorful and exciting memories of the past when Tatay would bring the whole family to Subic and Cubi Point for the Fil-Am fiesta and open-house during July 4 independence celebration. The exhilarating memory of the tour of the biggest US naval base outside the US… the most modern aircraft carrier at that time, the USS Ranger…. its elevator as big as 2 basketball courts…. the German trapeez circus artisten (we saw the same circus earlier in Araneta coliseum)… the Baberuth chocolate bars…..and many other colorful snapshots hovered in my mind. But this place we were in was not the Subic we used to go. We found ourselves outside the base. What we saw were the long lines of cocktail lounges, beer gardens, clubs and bars (not the chocolate but watering holes). And we could not get into the base for one has to have a pass to get inside.

Finally, we decided to shoot kegs at the town's bowling alley. But the 10-pin alley was full. We waited for an alley to be free but ended up watching people played na lang. We enjoyed the hot dog sandwiches while watching the games. After the soft drinks, came this great necessity to go to the toilet. Dodje and I relieved our selves obediently but Ditse, hesitated because of the common knowledge of sexual diseases that abound around the base area (we did not even drink the water; for no bottled water then). No problemo for my dear sister Pearl- for she had that psycho kinetic power (mind over matter) to control her system. At about 3pm we took a Victory bus back to Manila. Once more, we enjoyed the breeze, the chat and the giggling in the bus while viewing the mountains and fields along the way.

We reached Torres Bugallon late in the afternoon satisfied, happy, unruffled and later "relieved" (in the case of Pearl) as if we had just gone to a short leisurely walk along Avenida Rizal. And that was true in a sense, though not really in Manila, but in Olongapo City's Rizal Avenue, hehehe. Moreover, aside from the good fun from such naughty interlude, I loved and cherished the bonding we had as brothers and sister during that short Sunday break. This bonding was more important to the 3 of us. Thank you Jesus for this wonderful time with Pearl and Dodje.

By the way, that early evening, we did tell Tatay and Nanay all about it- that we were actually in Rizal Avenue, Olongapo City. Both of them were amused about our short adventure.

After that escapade, every now and then we enticingly quipped, "Let's go to Avenida!" and then we laughed with gusto. Why not? I was really thinking then, that the next time we would go to Avenida Rizal, it should be in Rizal Avenue, Davao City. Hahahaha!

PS
We praise and thank you Lord for the wonderful time we have as a family for You continue to add years to our life and add life to our years. Amen #DSV

Prayer is so powerful indeed particularly when it comes from a good heart.

By: Danny S. Villanueva

I am reminded of our recent recollection topic that prayer without self-denial (self-sacrifice, mortification, etc.) and/ or charity does not work at all in our spiritual life; and vice versa. It was illustrated as a simple 3-legged coffee table where the 3 legs as prayer, self-denial and charity. If one is broken, the table (spiritual life) falls to the ground. I rather look at it as the heart of the person with 3 big arteries since this also illustrates the good condition of heart a person should have.

This brings to mind the way my best friend prayed 2 years ago that he asked God that he should get all my afflictions, when he learned that I was a candidate for a heart bypass. He plainly reasoned out that he's single, and unlike me -head of a family and who cannot afford to suffer this early for too many people are relying on me. When he told me this, I could see the real love in his prayer with self-denial and the charity in his heart. I retorted that he should not pray that way, that it was unfair, and the good Lord will not allow that kind of compromise to happen.

However, I am sure with that prayer, I got healed instantly while my friend remained in the constant care of the Lord. His prayer was a manifestation of a perfect love, agape, the Christ's love or self-sacrificial love. And I believe that our ever-loving God would not allow such a compromise that my friend gets sick and I get healed, for He preserves what is always good. He does not look into a lot of things we do to please Him, but He prefers to see the good condition of our hearts. That was my belief and response to God for my best friend's prayer.

I could recall that Nanay prayed that way for Tatay, too, and then Tatay got well. Sabrie and I prayed that way, too, when our children were sick …..out of our love and concern. Maybe Dodje prayed the same way when Nanay had to be operated on and she got healed instantly. Can we pray the same for our sick neighbor? Why not? #DSV

A SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY? Or Weather-weather lang iyan!!!

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Popular politics call it the People Power II, others call it transfer of power by mob rule, while others say it was a coup d etat to topple a president by force. Whatever, the change was fast, bloodless, smooth, spontaneous and electrifying. This is gratifying. Buti na lang. Thank you Lord.

I observed that since the election time and up to Erap’s assumption to presidency, his detractors, critics and “enemies” were already having a hay day watching closely and criticizing his every move and always anticipating, predicting and wishing that he fail and be doomed. Self-righteousness was heavy, no longer in the air, but in every heart of people hating Erap. Erap’s opponents condemn him so great that they foresee that he would only be there for a year or so to function as chief executive of the country. To make things worst, certain sector of the clergy ganged up on him, too. To maintain focus, Erap jokes became a favorite pastime everywhere, even on the pulpit, to a point it graduated to malice and bad taste from just fun and play in words.

Well, he lasted for almost 3 tormenting years, but finally ousted for good (?). This is what we may see as a self-fulfilling prophecy, that he is destined to doom. Kawawa naman siya. Sabi nga ng iba, “Kasi hindi siya marunong magdala, dumiscarte kaparis ng ibang presidente, ayaw makinig, his style of governance is kanto type, lacks finish…” and many more. Evidently, there are misdeeds, graft and corruption in his reign, the moral question of having mistresses and the habit of gambling and drinking. Well, any of the past presidents or anyone for that matter could cast the first stone, sabi nga.

With the new government installed right now, still I see the division among our people, the self-righteousness pervades, rejection and labeling continue. Vengeance and hatred by the “victors” against the “losers” and vice versa are a daily menu. Where is healing? Where is love?

Sabi nga ng iba at ni Erap, weather-weather lang iyan. Lord, help! DSV

SMOKING GNAT: You put the lights out, his tongue glows

By: Danny S. Villanueva

NINGAS KUGON is now synonymous with our NO SMOKING campaign nowadays at work. Couple of years ago, it was real agony for smokers to find a place to smoke in the office. Now they are back with impunity almost smoking everywhere- the conference and meeting rooms, the hallways and of course, the comfort rooms, too. And you know what, the used to be classy blue seal cigarettes almost cost the same as the local brands now. Thanks to globalization.

After 1 and half hour conference meeting with the boys in the office, I would smell like tinapang Salinas. Patis and kamatis na lang, puwede na akong kaiinin. To get that smoke stench out of me, I would change shirts when I go home for lunch. I also always keep a wardrobe of spare uniforms in the car just in case I may not be able to go home to change. Palagay ko, may tama na si ako because of the second hand smoke. Ano kaya, magsmoke na rin ako, para first hand naman? Sa lagay kayo lang? Huwag na lang… says my other me.

Some people no longer ask, “Do you mind if I smoke?” Just in case they do, we could readily say, “No, go ahead and burn your self.” And if the smoker is caught smoking in a non-smoking area, before you used to throw the cigarette out of the window, now you could do the same but with the smoker attached to it. Hahahaha.

I would be happy to see militant smokers in our work place swaggering around with water pistols strapped to their belt and with a red patch on their sleeves: Born to Breathe. I guess you can easily tell militants. You find them to hate smoke in any form. They abhor tinapa, smoke salmon, smoke beef and hotdogs by Smokey the Bear. And surely, they cry a river listening to Platters’ “Smoke gets in your eyes.”

If you know the militant non-smokers, you should immediately identify the smoking gnats- the chain smokers. You know the type, he smokes so much that you put the lights out, his tongue glows. He prefers shasimi that he can bite raw fish and cook it while chewing it (kaya pala mahilig ang mga Hapon sa raw foods, neh). He’s synchronized with the fire department that whenever there is fire, he goes to the burning buildings and inhales. If there’s no fire in the neighborhood, he always volunteers to do the barbecue during weekend, (though, remember, he eats the raw ones only). His fingers have so much nicotine on them, that for him nail-biting could be dangerous to his health. Girls who dated him say his kiss is like the Bicol Express. Hahahaha.

Now, how can you tell a passive smoker naman ? Ako yun ha! Well for one, he washes and changes shirt everytime after a conference in the tinapahan with the boys. He keeps a wardrobe of extra clothes in the car. He would likely stick cigarette filters in his nostrils during smoking sessions. Or he uses a surgical mask thinking that this is better than the more expensive chemical masks. To keep him from coughing he always have a box full of candy mints, sugar free pa – very careful nga dahil diabetic siya. May maidadag pa kayo? Isa pa- he dies much earlier than the gnats. Meron pa? Sige nga, please. DSV

CALIFORNIA REUNION: Home Sweet Home! Aug. 12-25, 2001

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Tired, crumpled and sluggish after that long night-owl flight from NYC-Detroit-San Francisco, we were very pleased to see at this unholy hour Kuya Noli waiting outside the airport terminal, who looked like a “gallant knight in his shining armor” ready to whisk us to freedom… as Dodje, Sabrie and me anxiously collecting our luggage. Surely, Kuya’s dependable Rodeo brought us to San Jose in a zip… to Tonino and Pearl’s home. We felt home sweet home at last as we shared an early morning breakfast of our favorite corned beef and eggs. Ang sarap talaga!

Prior to our coming, Ditseng Pearl and Kuya Noli had done their homework well to plan for our Villanueva Reunion. Definitely, the design was flexible depending on how we would come out alive on each event… pagod ba… busog ba… antok ba… at marami pa. Beside Kuya Noli and his Rodeo, to ensure that we are very mobile, Dikong Tonino and his dutiful Rav4 took leave from work during the whole duration of our stay, while Ate Ludy seized some days to be with us. Save from Ate Day, who’s not able to come because of Matthew’s condition, decided to come later in September, when summer is gone. By and large, our reunion, is once again exciting, very fruitful and memorable. Sabi ko nga kay Ditse, Kuya, Dodje and Sabrie…. It’s like a dream….

Below are some snapshots of our Villanueva reunion:

BIRTHDAY MASS: That was the first glorious order of the day that Sunday, on our arrival… celebrated by Fr. Dodje for Dikong Tonino, the birthday celebrator . The Holy Mass brought about in us the family love… lifting up one another… the Gospel and homily on the “undivided” bond of spouses, that this may truly happen in God’s beautiful grace to Dikong Tonino and Ditseng Pearl, to Kuya Rol and Ate Day, to Kuya Noli and Ate Ludy, to Sabrie and me, and specially… to Jesus and Dodje. Amen.

MISSION IMPOSSIBLE: “Thanks, guys! I’ts like a miracle!” my jubilant Ditse exclaimed, as Kuya Noli, Dodje and me excitedly put up a home theatre room for Ditseng Pearl and Tonino complete with a new sensurround system… in no time at all. That’s love and teamwork at play. You’d find Ate Ludy couched in the papa san, Sabrie in the red bean bag, Ditse on her new back rest that rested on the floor and we guys spread around the room in our comfy chairs with snacks at the center, while the whole room reverberated as we watched “Mission Impossible II” while Kuya gracefully aping “the hanging” Tom Cruise. Hahaha… naloko na!

“BEINTE UNO”: That’s the backyard basketball game Dikong Tonino, Kuya Noli, Jeffrey and me played when we visited Inang at Kuya Eloy’s place. Kuya Noli lived up to his old reputation as a Bugallon basketball hot shot as he displayed flawlessly his shooting skill by crushing us with his ringless shots. Well, I could see Ate Ludy awed, completely having crush on Kuya while Diktseng Pearl and Ditseng Ningning were cheering up on the side. Surely, Jeffrey would seriously think about expanding the ground so we could play a half court game next time around.

17-MILE DRIVE: … We saw ourselves peering closely on the many glasses of the Monterey aquarium… amazed about the extraordinary beauty of aquatic life God has created for all of us…. and the great need to preserve/restore them… We smelled the refreshing air of the ocean as we walked by the beach… and we traversed the hills and greens of Carmel as I imagined playing the links of Peeble Beach Golf courses…. What a beautiful place to retire…. What a place to eat sumptuous sea foods…. Gutom na si kami….. hahaha.

TODAI… YOU DIE EATING: And really we did with gusto as gourmands would always do at Todai’s Sea Food Buffet not only for one day but on 2 occasions … treat of Ditseng Pearl to satisfy our hunger for sea foods after that Monterey trip… and a birthday treat for Kuya Noli by Dodje…. Boy, we could certainly die eating at Todai. Who said that we violated our covenant of balance diet when we enjoyed balancing the intakes of our favorites: lobsters, more lobsters, crab legs, more crab legs, shrimps and more shrimps. Suprisingly, no one declared to overeat at Todai. No, Ditseng Pearl, my big belly was not due to Todai… but due to Sabrie’s cooking. You may ask the same about Dikong Tonino’s belly- that’s due to the big “vento” you always prepare for his office baon. No problem, we are both Dikong, anyway…. Dikong Belly Coy… likas na matakaw at mahiyain.

MOFFET SHOW: That of our golfing prowess… as Dikong Tonino and I tried a 16-hole game at the popular Moffet Air Base golf course one early morning. Being greenhorn in this green, Diko got a golf cart so we could have a faster pace in our game. Well, at front nine, we were kind of slow for we took long time to find our balls…. But not on the back nine were we were able to hit more straight balls that kept us at a faster pace…. as fast as the squirrels that seemed to go for our balls. Tonino was a real gentleman at the course as would follow the many courtesies of the game. Day earlier, Tonino, Kuya Noli and I did practice driving and putting at San Leandro’s Golf Country Club. Tonino would help me improve my swing… sweeping style… he should have seen me do the New York swing that I do better…. hahaha. I watched Kuya Noli practiced and he has a beautiful, natural swing attributed to his good tennis swing. Pretty soon you’ll find the 3 of us totally engrossed with golf... that at bedtime, we putter to sleep… and at meal time we would ask for the putter.. patis pala… hahaha.

LORRAINE AND KUYA: It was really great to see old family friend Lorraine during Kuya Noli’s early bday luncheon. He’s family, Kuya’s college buddy. Lorrraine and wife Edna prepared the sumptuous foods for the occasion and snack foods… siopao and hopia. Wholesome friendship really lasts as it was rekindled anew when their path crossed in California. The Sunday following, Fr. Dodje celebrated a Holy Mass for Kuya’s bday that capped the former ‘s US vacation prior to going back to Rome the next day. Reunion and birthday parties really mix well… with good foods and excellent wines.

JUST IN TIME: … goes the song of Judy Garland in a DVD… you caught me just in time… made my heart sing everytime I watched it at Ditseng Pearl’s home. It lifted my spirit… there was joy remembering Tatay and Nanay… their love… blessing our presence on this family reunion… the family love we shared… the joy of being together. Thank you Lord for keeping us together in your wonderful glory. Amen.

Our many thanks to Ditseng Pearl, Dikong Tonino, Kuya Noli, Ate Ludy and Fr. Dodje for the wonderful time we shared together… until next time… just in time… for another inspiring family reunion… we love you! #Danny and Sabrie

2001 DEES REUNION: Rekindling that loving feeling….

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Ilang tulog na lang nandiyan na po si kami sa California – with Fr. Dodje, Sabrie and Ate Day! Our loving and generous hosts- Kuya Noli, Ate Ludy, Dikong Tonino and Ditseng Pearl are now on their toes preparing for our joyful arrival this August… I could really sense that they are cooking up something…. something wonderful…. Naamoy ko na sa sarap! Ha ha ha ha! Indeed, it will be a real summer holiday for all of us…. best time to rekindle once again the Villanueva brand of family love that keep us bound together through the years. Thank you, Jesus.

Ate Day would be arriving on August 3 that’s according to Kuya Noli. While Fr. Dodje, Sabrie and me would be heading first to the Big Apple (balak kumagat ni Sabrie kung kasing sarap ng big Japanese apples yung New York big apple) on August 9-11 for our “An Affair to Remember” rendezvous thing. Fr. Dodje, aside being our kind tour guide, will document this important event – for this visit will cap our 25th wedding anniversary. The last time I was in New York City was 1976 (right after the filming of King-kong and the death of Elvis). At that time I visited Ate Gonyang, Kuya Rey and family at uptown NewYork. Really beautiful memories I have about them.

We will be in California on August 12….. the birthday of Dikong Tonino! What a happy day to start our family reunion… a birthday celebration with all the Dees (mga kamag-anak ni Sandra Dee…. hindi naman Intsik). Miller has just been drafted by Diko and Kuya Noli as our regular beer drinking companion. I heard, Ditseng Meg and Kuya Noli have lined up exciting activities and itinerary for the 2-week reunion. Wow. Watch out for the photos that will be posted here in Rancho V.

Hindi na ako makatulog… tinatamad na akong magtrabaho….. ilang tulog na lang… nangangarap na si ako…. May tigyawat na ako sa ilong… paputok na… sa puyat. Pihado pagdating sa San Jose at Castro Valley…. Baka puro tulog na lang ang gawin… hahahaha.

Heavenly Father, please bless our 2001 family reunion. Amen. #DSV

AN AFFAIR TO REMEMBER: Broadway, NYC, August 9-11, 2001

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Despite the 9 hours of waiting at JFK airport and the sizzling weather (about 105 F) of the Big Apple, our loving host was very happy to see Sabrie and me as we came out. He was cool dude, called Dodje, a New York city slicker in his casual attire, incognito look: white polo jacket shirt without that clergy collar, black pants and in a new pair of fashionable Bruno Magli casual shoes (which I luckily inherited later) that matched well with the concrete pavement of the city.

Dodje claimed that he planned our life in detail while in New York during this 3-day ”affair to remember” as his gift to us for our 25th wedding anniversary this year. This was the first agenda prior to our going to California for the Villanueva family reunion with Ditseng Pearl and Kuya Noli (Ate Day’s coming to the US was delayed due to Matthew’s situation). Dodje had in his mind where to go, where to dine, and what to see. Great was his plan that he likely prepared even while in Rome before going to New York. Just like any great plans, they ought to be changed… as Sabrie would bring the rains to have cool respite from the sweltering summer heat, and her usual quirks and health misdemeanors…. Hahaha! But Dodje and I were so loving, flexible and understanding as we babied Sabrie away in Broadway in our holiday mood. Sabrie just loved it. Hahaha! (Dikong Masbad and Gina- so sorry for not being able to call you up because of the unexpected turned of events during our very limited time in NYC).

Here are some of our memorable New York City snapshots:

THE MISERABLE: Dodje first salvo was a treat to a great Broadway musical in our first night… and for this we saw “Les Miserables” at the Imperial Theatre. We really loved it as it was our first live Broadway musical in our life. For Dodje, it was quite miserable for he had to leave in the middle of the show to go back to his lodging and address a personal miserable condition. No problem- as he saw this musicale 3X already including one in London. At the end of the show, we saw Dodje at the lobby waiting for us, who no longer looked miserable but sported a wide smile and looked ready to bring us to his next treat- his favorite Chinese restaurant to deliciously cap our musical night.

NEW YORK WALKERS: By this time, as Ditseng Pearl, who seemed to monitor our activities via celphone, called us to say, that the 3 of us should by now be true-blue members of the “New Yorkers Walking Club” after walking through several times 5th Avenue, Time Square, and the many streets of Broadway. Boy, the walk towards the Empire State building was too long as Dodje would check us whether or not we would better take the cab. Daringly, we decided to walk- Dodje and I briskly while Sabrie leisurely strolling behind us. Funny, every now and then we stopped momentarily along the way to catch the cold refreshing air from the air conditioned stores whenever their doors opened. Hahaha.

SINGING IN THE RAIN: The long walk to the Empire State bldg. was kind of tough but the ride to the top was very fast and easy as the elevator zoomed up to 80th floor in no time at all. At the viewing deck, we found the sky to be getting foggy and dark- the signs of rain to come but we still could see the expanse of the concrete jungle of New York City. When we got out of the building at about 3 PM, it was already pouring and the street lights were already on –on account of the darkness due to the freak storm. Wow, Typhoon Sabrie could have brought in the rain (though she would jokingly ask, sino ang may balat sa atin?). Dutifully Dodje bought us umbrellas after hopping and running for covers while happily singing Sinatra’s New York-New York … for the summer heat had gone away. Surprisingly, there was no rain later that night and it remained refreshingly cool as we continued to roam around Broadway. Were we not lucky? Blessed, we were.

LOUNGING AND LINGERIE: Dodje and I found ourselves stuck in lounge seats at the big lingerie section at the 3rd floor of Macy’s 5th Avenue while Sabrie took time to shop merrily for some underwear for our girls. What a place to rest where lady customers would doubtfully watch us as they passed by us. Much later, Sabrie came out seemed refresh from her shopping spree. For Dodje and I, it was heaven, no- not for the sexy outfits around, but the much needed rest. Hahaha.

TIME’S A SQUARE: As we found ourselves enjoying the sights and sounds of Time Square in the evenings - from queuing to buy Broadway show tickets to plainly ogling around. While most of the streets would have sign saying- “No Standing” along the sidewalks (means to get moving), at Time Square we could stand as long as we wanted to watch, enjoy and be amused by the many antics of the many gifted New Yorkers were offering. In front of the big, old Coke ad, there was this black man playing familiar tunes with his synthesized stainless steel drums. At further south in the center of the square was a Russian duo playing beautiful Russian jazz music- one with a classic guitar for the percussion and the other with an electric violin as a lead, while a lady assistant would go around selling their recorded pieces in CDs. They could be recording artists you know, who could be the next who’s who of music, waiting to be discovered.

PEEP AT 42ND STREET: Dodje told us that we would pass by 42nd Street. I got kind of peeved as I recalled when I was in New York in 1977, this popular street was riddled by “peep shows.” Hahaha. Alas and behold, the street has been converted to a more lighted and decent looking promenade with theatres, museums, diners and stores. Gone are the sexy “peep shows.” However, Sabrie kind of uneasy of the many big black youngsters loitering around, blocking the sidewalks. Then we went to Virgin Records Shopping Mall- the biggest in the world for CDs and associated wares. We left Time Square at midnight and still people strolled around. Nobody slept. But we need to go to bed as we have to fly to San Francisco the next day.

CENTERING AT THE PARK: On the 3rd day, we decided to stroll and sit at the Central Park…. to unwind from the hectic schedules we did earlier… and specially to take the opportunity to commune with God in the peacefulness and quietness of the park. We played back the beautiful memories… the grandeur and beauty of St. Thomas Church, St. Patrick Cathedral, Empire State, Rockefeller Center, the GE building… the moral lessons of “Les Miserables,” … the family and work we left behind… Mark and Mayette at home… Matthew’s condition… Ate Day’s family… Ditseng Pearl and Kuya Noli looking forward to our coming to California…. how the hands of the Lord continue to facilitate the many events in our life. We thanked God for all of these… and the lovely bonding the Villanueva siblings are making together… in His caring… glorious love.

Thank you, Dodje. Thank you, Jesus. #DSV

MIDLIFE CRISIS, ANYONE?

By: Danny S. Villanueva

After Sabrie and I attended a 3-day LIGHTING UP retreat at Don Bosco-Batulao, Batangas, we were really made aware that we are going through the so-called "midlife crisis." Here are the obvious signs:

· I perceive that my 10-10, Bing, Cathy, Eloy and Mark are like sponges. They absorb all my strength and leave me limp. But every time I give anyone of them a squeeze, I get all my strength back. Hmmmmmm. Yes!!!

And if I squeeze all of them, I become Superman, the man of steel. Up, up and away!!! That's the superhero syndrome in me. If I get to squeeze Sabrie, she gets in shape……hahaha. She loves that squeeze. #

· And Sabrie would complain to me: "Of course, Papa, machine really have feelings, you know. Otherwise, when the washing machine stops working, why should the rice cooker breakdown?" Lesson- even appliances do get old, too …. to midlife crisis. Need to get new replacement. #

· When Sabrie and I were packing for our annual retreat, I got really uptight. She packed by the "Noah Method- takes 2 of everything even if we were going to a 3-day retreat." Sign: That's her growing spiritual maturity. #

· Since Sabrie left her job as supermarket comptroller late last year, she has been busy as a home-maker. She says: "I always accomplish a lot on Saturdays. It is the day I get everything done I was going to do Mondays." Meaning: She could have more beauty rest now than before. Tumataba tuloy… katutulog. #

· Aside from being a very good accountant, Sabrie is a bookworm! She emerges from the bank: "Funny thing with check books. Once I have started one, I just could not put it down until I have finished." Naloko na po, baka tumalbog. #

· Sabrie's wit and humor of old: One day Mark invited some classmates to take their merienda at home. Sabrie started to prepare chicken and egg sandwiches for them. She calls them, "Come and get it! See which comes first." Hahaha. #

· Sabrie found a note pasted on the computer monitor's screen: "Mama, please help me with my homework on English composition. Love, Mark." Recognizing that she could not help him, she quickly typed and printed a response: Der Mark, I wold lov to hep out evry wey I ken. Lov, Mama." Meaning: I will be doing Mark's homework. # DSV

BALLROOM DANCE, Anyone?

By: Danny S. Villanueva

Ballroom dancing is in the air once again in Tarlac. Our Community is looking at including ballroom dancing to our upcoming fellowship nights in October and November. Everybody is looking forward to a ball aside form the usual singing and short comic skit presentation.

You bet, here in Tarlac, we got the works- fox trot, reggae, rhumba, mambo, cha-cha, waltz, tango, samba, boogie, swing, LA walk and many more. To be sure that you dance your way out all through out the night with the non-stop live orchestra music, they got people to teach you to dance. No, they are not dancing attorneys nor attorneys-at-dance. They are actually dance teachers for hire. Like real lawyers though, they defend you and keep you from harms way at the ballroom. Don't you worry about you stepping on their toes. These dance tutors are always on their toes to absorb such hazard of their job. No, they don't wear steel-toe-shoes, just plain dancing shoes.

I know what you are thinking, Jun M. No way that you can dance the Manila's "maski-pap (maski papano na lang)." It is no ballroom dance at all. You should acquire the art and that's ballroom dancing. No, it is not bullroom dancing even. But like the bull fight arena, I could imagine Tonino, Kuya Rol, Dn and me would be the graceful matadors dancing and caressing our toros-Dz, Dc, Ate Ludy and Sabrie with Don Dodje on the side, cheering - ole, ole, ole - with a cold glass of mompo. Now I see your point Jun M. You may call it bullroom dancing then. Hahahaha.

I remember when I was with a Rotary club (1990-1996) that some of the Rotarians' Anns (wives) brought along their gay DI's. Instead of the male asking the female to dance, our guys observed that the Anns were the ones asking these dance commissioners (paid with commission fees per hour; hehehe) to dance them. And when they danced, they did it with gusto, non-stop. This likely made the Rotarians feel left out like wall flowers, unwanted and envious (pa drama pa).
Of course, the guys claimed that they were able to dance with their Anns once in a while, though, "kasi lawit dila na ang mga DI's na pinagpapasahan ng mga ladies."

And there was this all night Tarlac town fiesta's ballroom at the plaza where the Anns brought along gay DI's who kept the ladies on the dancing floor all night. I enjoyed dancing with Sabrie the New York New York swing, cha-cha, reggae, the sweet (slow drag) and the very sweet. We also tried the waltz and pasa-doble. She learned these dances from Hector and Chicklet (no, not the sweet and the very sweet dances; I taught Sabrie those ones), the gay DI's who taught our ladies in our community in one of those party-teaching sessions.

In retaliation to their Anns' (spouses') wonderful time with their gay DI's, some of the guys learned to dance with the same gay DI's in due time. And one Rotarian friend quipped to me, "Hey Dan, masmasarap isayaw si Hector at si Chicklet than the girls." Naloko na po kami.

Well, sure I could have danced with Hector and the likes during dance teaching sessions, but not during the actual ball. Dyahi, me dancing with Hector and Chicklet? While it is true that even during a ball, we could not help get instruction from our dancing tutors. No, no, Jun M, it would be impractical for our dancing commissioners to change attires to suit their patrons. Say, from tuxedo pants to mini skirts. If we allow them to do that, mauubos ang oras sa powder room. Hahaha.

So you see, Jun M, we guys may need female commissioners if our spouses could not dance at all. As long we guys would be able to recognize the real ones. Ay mali !!! #DSV

Buhay Alamang: Pinoys' Classic Eating Manners

By: Danny S. Villanueva

We Pinoys have these distinguished eating manners. The following are my unusual experiences:

(Life in Rotary) During my stint as a district officer in Rotary covering Central Luzon, a guest at a District dinner in San Fernando, Pampanga who was seated next to me politely turned to me.
"Excuse me, did I get your name correctly?" the guest asked me, "Is your name Rotarian Danny?" "Yes," was my response with a smile.
"Is it Danny Villanueva?" he said. "Yes," I nodded and smiled again to further confirm it.
He said, "Are you the noted district's authority on manner s and protocol?" I said, "Yes," and I added, "Why do you ask?"
"Because," he said, "you have just eaten my salad." Ay mali, dyahi to-i! # DSV

(Life in GE) A problem professionals face during eating parties is that people often try to get free advice. At a GE cocktail party at Manila Polo Club, one guest was introduced to me. After chatting for a few moments, the guest gave a little laugh and said, "You know, the color rendition of the lights at the lobby of our hotel is not that good. The decorative plants around look pale. The walls, oil paintings and drapes look drab. There seems no color of life. Could it be the kind of lights I used? I wonder…. Maybe it's nothing."
"It could be anything," I said. "But I cannot tell you which one. I am an electrical engineer and not an illumination engineer. I am sorry for not being able to help you.
"Oh," replied the guest, "Well then, what do you think is good for my electric generator that produces unusual sound..….." Naloko na po. #DSV

(Family Night out) One Sunday night at Cabalen, an 'eat-all-you-can' restaurant at Katipunan, Ten-ten stood up with her almost empty plate, explained, "MacArthur!" A few moments later, Bing followed suit going to the buffet table, declared, "MacArthur!" Then I saw Cathy, Eloy and Mark together shouted, "MacArthur!"

When Sabrie saw Mark for the third time rose up and said, "MacArthur!" she said, "Oy, oy, oy! Could you tell me, kung ano ang ibig sabihin nang 'MacArthur' na iyan?" I winked at Sabrie and said with a hand salute, "I shall return." Hahahaha. #DSV

(Life in Tarlac) Certain nature of Kapampangan is being able to indulge in silly "pahanginan" or "payabangan" while partaking foods. Everything for fun, I guessed so. At Paradise Resort, I attended a "kamayan" party (eating with bare hands) and observed with gusto the repartee of the guys in one table. One gentleman quipped, "Mas masarap magluto ng sisig yung Lolo ko. Yung luto niya pinadadala sa Hotel Intercontinental sa Makati." A seemingly sophisticated gourmand retorted with pride, "Wala yung Lolo mo sa Lola ko. Yung Lola ko yung sisig niyang niluluto pinadadala pa sa Malacanang para kay President Erap! "

While engaging at this kind of repartee, the sophisticated gourmand saw a cup looking coconut shell with hot water in it and several calamansi fruits on the side which were being used by others for "hinawan ng kamay" mistook it and prepare calamansi juice out of it. "Ano ba naman ito? Wala naman ka-class-class nitong restaurant na ire. Lemonada lang hindi pa tinimpla," he complained and drank it bottoms up. Naloko na po. #DSV

Ditseng Pearl, can you add more to this list? You once mentioned how the Pinoys ran off with the plates and cooking utensils during your recent Labor Day picnic in San Jose. That's for the books! Hahahaha! #DSV

Buhay Alamang: Eating Disorders

By: Danny S. Villanueva

You know, there could be lots of eating habits that could be considered strange and mysterious at times. This could vary from one culture to another or say, from one dining room to another. Some people would find these habits acceptable and not as "disorders" at all.

I know some friends who are extremely "choosy" eaters consuming only a few variety of foods. Can we classify Kuya Noli and Fr. Dodje as examples of this choosy kind? Kasi palagi na lang yung walang kamatayang "ginisang corned beef " ang talagang favoritong almusal, tanghalian at hapunan niya. Tatay when he was alive would always be happy partaking "tuyo" everytime with 'gatas ng kalabaw" on the side. Mark when he was a toddler, he would only go for hotdogs and catsup. When we were kids, si Ditseng Pearl naman would always go for the "buntot ng bangus" all the time or because yun nalang ang natitira palagi sa kanya; not a chance to choose? Baka nga. So Ditse is not really choosy but 'no choice' pala. Hahahaha.

And I got friends who are on the other hand "ritualistic" about their food, eating certain foods only at certain combination. Sabrie is probably one of this type of eater who matches "ginisang munggo" always with "paksiw na bangus" and "adobong baboy." Natutuhan niya iyan kay Nanay, kasi yun ang gusto ko (ako pala yung may disorder). No, Jun M, our habit of saying grace before and after meal is not classified part of this type. But in case of pork viand that has so much fat and cholesterol, I would bless this food for it to become pink salmon that is safe for me to eat; then this you may call ritualistic, too. Hehehehe.

But serious eating disorders are grouped into 3 or 4 categories, sabi ga. Check it our where you belong.

1. Anoxeria Nervosa- lack of appetite. It is characterized by a person who refuses to maintain a minimally normal body weight. Instead, she maintains at a level lower than the low end of her normal weight range for her height. About 95% daw of the people who have this disorder are females and of the middle and upper socio-economic classes. Jun M, meron bang mga Masbads and Gomezes falling on this category? Ninenervios ma-overweight. Dz is not part of this class; walang nervios ito sa pagkain ng saluyot at beef steak ni Tonino.

2. Bulimia Nervosa- fond of bingeing and purging. The bingeing is done repeatedly, at least 2x a week. The person eats with gusto, out of control and unable to stop eating huge quantities. Once the binge is over, the victim is horrified kunwari what she/he has done then panic and guilt sets in. To get rid of the excessive calories, the bulimic (katakawan) will induce vomiting (taking large amount of laxatives or diuretics, susundutin ng daliri ang lalamunan para masuka, or go on a rigid diet afterwards). Sira ulo talaga.

3. Binge eating disorder (BED)- (not hearing disorder, hehehe) rapid consumption of large amounts of food without purging. Mukhang mga Noy-pis ang papasok dito. Others (the obese and gourmands, sino pa?) do not consider this as eating disorder. This is more common than the other 2 classes. Sometimes we called this as compulsive overeaters or food addicts and closely characterize the bulmics.

4. Bulmica sa Kanto - This is no regular bulmic but more of an economic disorder very prevalent in RP- "bumili ka na lang ng ulam sa carinderia sa kanto, anak." The victim is characterized as thin and malnourished as a result of skipping meals. Once the person has earned some money, he would take no time to go to the nearest corner sari-sari store to buy foods. No laughing matter, it is happening. Kawawa naman po sila. Tulungan natin sila.

Nawala yata yung gutom ko. Na binge yata na ako, hindi ko na marinig yung kalam ng tiyan ko (not binge eating, but hearing disorder this time). That's the problem when you talk of foods, you either lose appetite or get more ungry (pronounced as kapampangan). Ayoko ng kumain ng nga (…..ng kakaunti…) Hahaha. #DSV

Life in Sumitomo: O-na-ka ga su-ki-ma-shi-ta (Tom-gu na si a-ko, ne.)

By: DSV

Kon-ni-chi-wa (hello). You know, I have been working with a Sumitomo company here in Tarlac since 1991. Firstly, I was hired as a plant manager of International Wiring Systems Phils. (IWSP) wire and cable division from 1991-1996. 1n 1996, my said division was later spinned off and expanded as a separate company, called International Electric Wires Phils. Corp. (IEWP) where I serve as the AVP for manufacturing up to this time. Both companies are connected with Sumitomo Electric Inustries, Ltd. of Japan. This is a real paradigm shift for me as a professional, from my solid 19 years life with an American firm, GE, to Nippon's kaisen, soba and yakiniku. Let me share with you some experiences. Dou-zo (please) ….


In one excom meeting, Alice De Vera, the Filipino president of IWSP, mockingly commented about the increase hiring of employees, "Oh my, we are really growing like rabbits over here!" After the meeting, Nishida san, EVP, approached me and whispered discreetly, "Danny san, Alice san was very angry ne. She called us rabbits!" #DSV


Muto san was so excited to show me a new wire product catalogue prepared by his group in Japan that was written in English. There were no misspellings or errors in usage. But at the bottom of the back cover were the 3 words: "Plinted in English." #DSV


I asked Yamashita san, EVP of IEWP who just arrived from visiting his son in the hospital in Osaka. "Oh, he is improving," he quickly replied, "but he is still in the expensive-care unit." #DSV


I felt I have the language licked. One day while discussing a technical problem with Nishiyama san, I remarked, "It looks like as if we are thinking along parallel lines." He slowly nodded in agreement. I was surprised one week later, when the same problem surfaced again. "Didn't we agree we are thinking along parallel lines? I asked. The Japanese looked puzzled. "Hai, Danny san," he said, "Parallel lines means we will never meet." #DSV


I met Kawashima san, an ardent golfer from our office at Luisita Golf and Country Club one day. "Playing much golf these days?" I asked. "Not too much," he replied sadly. "Just in the afternoon." #DSV


Yasuno san commented on the attractive girl who took our order when we stopped for lunch in one of the beautiful beach restaurants in Cebu. "All Filipino girls are beautiful, " he said. "Japanese girls are very pretty, too." I said. "Ahh, but not so 3-dimensional as Filipino girls," was his fervent reply. #DSV


Nakai san bought me a 1999 calendar that has a portrait of a beautiful geisha girl with an enigmatic smile. He called her Kimona Lisa san. #DSV

Life in Sumitomo: No-do ga ka-wa-ki-ma-shi-ta (De-hins pa ko seng-lot, ne.)

By:DSV

I am able to mix my 19 years of Fil-American GE discipline beautifully with my present job with IEWP, the Japanese Sumitomo firm here in RP. The result: a much more international firm that markets its business globally and more effectively. Kung baga sa eating of humburger sandwich, yung sauce is not the usual tomato catsup anymore but wasabe in kikkoman soy sauce (Ahhhggg.) Let me share my exciting life with you with many Japanese tomadachi (yung mga mahilig tumoma). But first I have to wear the "bayong" on my head (makapili style). Dou-zo…….


One afternoon after a good round of golf at Luisita Golf Club, I joined the boys and Hachiro san, president of IEWP, at the latter's executive house (better known as Hachiro's Bar) for some cold beers and finger foods. He smartly advised us: "If you drink, do not drive. Do not even putt." He's talking from experience. #DSV


While the Filipino staff uses their vacation leaves a day at a time, the Japanese staff use their VL's in one big splurge- a long vacation trip to another country. "Why is that so?" Hachiro san asked me. I explained, "Vacations are time off given to all to take some kind of rest from work. It also reminds them that the company can get along without them." He replied with understanding, "Ah sooo, the Filipino staff would think that the company will stop if they are not around." (Sa totoo lang, Kulang lang sa atik ang mga Noy-pis. They rather convert their unused VLs to cash.) #DSV


"I understand that you are getting along nicely with your English," I said to Nakano san, a Japanese accountant. "How about syntax?" I asked. "Ahhh sooohhh, you tax sins in the Philippines?" He retorted. #DSV


A Filipino staff observes, "Boss Dan, these Japanese are funny, indeed. They ask when they do not know. And sometimes when they do. Why is that?" I replied, "They would like to be sure that we understand them." (Or better, they may not be so sure about themselves. They need also to be reaffirmed like anybody else.) #DSV


One Japanese staff members were talking in the smoking room. "Danny san, so sorry, we cannot stop smoking. We know smoke is very bad to our health," Ikeda san regretfully said. He continued, "We are invertebrate smokers." You mean inveterate, don't you?" I corrected. "No, invertebrate," was his ready reply, "No backbone." Hahahaha! Baka nga. #DSV


I lent my book One-Minute Manger to Ikeda san. "Have you read it?" I asked. "Hai, very good book. It is easy to read and understand, " he said, "I read it 60 times during lunch break." #DSV


Indeed, our Japanese staff members are all golf addicts. We had yakiniku (barbecue) at Sakura restaurant and Hachiro san corrected my grip while I was holding the tongs. #DSV

That 'Ber' Months

By: DSV

Oh no, this is not about beer months like the German's October Beer Festival. Yet, I miss the fun and thrill of Oktober Fest in Manila we used to observe when we were staying in Tondo- those German clad in Bavarian skirts…. tall beer mugs with german sausages as pulutan, the beer drinking tournament with that long drinking 'test tube' looking glasses….roll up the barrel….until you develop the preggy look with your beer belly . Well, we can't deny the fact that here in Pinas, all the 12 months of the year are beer months. All this beer is another story. Let me get to my real 'ber' story then.

We Pinoyski on this side of the world get into the jolly mood once we hit the "ber" months starting September. What comes to mind is an abstraction of things that normally happen during the preparation for the celebration of that jolly yuletide season. Here are local snap shots at home about being in the early 'ber' months:

· Funny, this early September, people are excitedly keen to listen to Christmas songs/music being aired on radios. That's why foreigners would label the Pinoys as the only mankind on earth who observes the longest the Christmas season. Sabrie and I would play with gusto taped carols in the car during the long drive to Manila during weekends. That essence of Christmas keeps us going.

However, I kind of wonder that on the day itself, Dec. 25, you'll hardly hear Christmas carols played on the radios. Maybe, people get tired of the carols somehow. But the spirit is still there.

· Sabrie is found ecstatic making calculations of how much money is left of my holiday bonus after paying the credit cards, the loans, the gifts and many others. At the end she'll give a big sigh, "Ayyy, muntik ng walang matira…."

· Shopping malls in October would change inventory of apparels that draw a lot of Pinoys to "shop till you drop" for their holiday dresses and gifts. This is the reason why many companies would already pay portion of the Christmas bonus as early as October or November to take this advantage and prevent the Christmas rush. Come December, the some same folks would ransack malls for new set of wardrobe since the ones purchased earlier are already "old."

In our case, we shop only for gifts in December. The brood would always wear old clothes during the holiday season and would shop for new ones after the holidays (in February or March) to avail of new stocks, kuno (sa tutoo lang walang ng 'atik' kasi). #DSV

My "Cadillacad Scooter"

By: DSV

Every boy in Bugallon would desire to have a "scooter" of his own. No, not the Lambretta nor Honda type. This toy was home made you know, of wooden parts and no internal combustion engine. It had ball bearings as wheels. One foot on the running board and the other foot to stroke the pavement to run it. Tadyak or pawis-power was it. The front wheel bearing was directly connected to a vertical steering handle. It was easy handling. It was the best toy that time and the basketball court fronting our house served as the Indy 500 circuit.

It was the fad, the craze in the neighborhood. I was 8 years old then. I could see the boys enjoying the ride on this running plank. How I wished to drive one of those. Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr went the sound of the bearings. The roar of the ball bearing was music to my ears then. I watched the neighborhood boys - Kiko Ponce, Danny Tuano and others rode and raced their "scooters" with gusto. I could borrow one from them, but I hesitated. Nahihiya ako.

Without a "scooter" of our own, Tatay and Kuya Noli in no time constructed a wooden cariton which had 3 passengers: a driver, a passenger and the person standing at the back who stroke the pavement with a foot or make "tulak" with the hands and other foot on the cariton. Like the "scooter," this cariton ran also on ball bearings. This was the only cariton of its kind in Indy 500. I, Kuya Noli and Dikong Pempe took turn as the "tulak.". Sometimes, Ate Day and Ditseng Pearl rode it, too. Though Ate Day, would show her prowess on roller skates, but this was another story.

One afternoon, Tatay came home very early from work (Northern Motors) with a pasalubong wrapped in thick papers. He excitedly presented it to me. I unwrapped it. Boy, it was a brand new, sleek "scooter!" Unlike the home made "scooter" in the neighborhood, this one was made by Tatay at his motor shop, fully painted with glossy blue (may masilla pa, multi-coat) and with 2 bearings at the back to allow it to stand. Wow! My "Cadillacad scooter."

Our house then was the comfortable native sawali type with a low "silong" (basement) that served as bodega or storage for the rice in drums, and the many "abubot" of Tatay such as tool boxes. Tatay, went to the storage to get a tool to further adjust some parts of my "scooter." Being a tall fellow, his head hit a protruding nail from the house flooring when he stretched up. I saw blood oozed fast from his head. I really felt so sorry* for him. I prayed really hard that it was not that serious. My excitement about the brand new " scooter" faded immediately. I was sort of feeling the blame for Tatay's mishap. Nanay lovingly applied first aid to his head wound. No, Tatay and Nanay were not quick-tempered. They did not show anger or wrath at all that moment. Tatay remained calm, at peace and went back to make adjustment on my "scooter."

Tatay was prudent. He lovingly asked me to try the "scooter" which I did without hesitation. I knew he was happy and proud to see me enjoying it. Thank you, Tatay and Nanay for all the love and understanding. And thank you Lord for the gift of family and for having loving parents. DSV

PS
* I had the same kind of feeling of love, sorry and concern when I accidentally hit Kuya Noli with his airgun during a playful target practice many years later. My Kuya Noli still has this loving remembrance in her chest up to this time. Like Tatay, Kuya was prudent. He never blamed me on this. Thank you, Kuya Noli. DSV

Inspiration:
He who is slow to wrath has great understanding. - Proverbs 14:29
A fool's wrath is known at once. -Proverbs 12:16
He who guards his mouth preserves his life. -Proverbs 13:3 #

Sunday in Tarlac

By: DSV

One weekend in Manila recently, I looked out of the window and discovered that Sunday had disappeared. Nobody had swiped it exactly, but something had gone out of this noble day. Suddenly I realized what it was: Sunday had turned into Monday.

Out on the street, people no longer were strolling about. They had direction, a midweek glint in their eyes that meant business. They were walking briskly in and out of stores instead of browsing quietly past the windows. The scene was as busy as your average workday Monday, throwing the whole week like crazy. Now Sunday is just another day and it appears to have lost its real purpose here in Manila.

Am I glad to be back in Tarlac where Sunday has character like the old days in Manila. It is prim, but underneath it has a certain toughness, some confidence and a sense of security. It is the most sturdy of days, one can count on. There is structure to it: you get up late, have a four-hour brunch, read the paper until naptime, have dinner and finish the paper or watch TV. Perhaps you go to church, play a round of golf or call home. You do not go to the market or you do not go to the office for a few hours. One of the things you definitely do not do is to go downtown and buy things on sale.

Sunday is the only day you can legitimately be lazy, since nobody else is getting a whole lot accomplished either. But just try lying a round the house on Sunday now- knowing that half of the world is out there doing things. Even people who claim to be relaxing are jogging and exercising like mad.

The Pinoy Summer

By: DSV

It is really getting warmer these days. Now we are back to finding ways to cope with the many aspects and moods of summer, which can be both favorable and unfavorable. The way we see it, addressing them, particularly the disconcerting ones, is not that impossible nor difficult at all. As Noypis, we have this trademark of having the ability to be adaptable to varying conditions. I heard you right Pearl, about us Pinoys being characterized as pliant as the bamboo.

This brings to view the beautiful and pleasant barriotic scenes in San Jose, NE, once upon a vacation time -like Sangkong Boy is seen reading his favorite komiks in a swinging hammock, attached to 2 mango trees. To put more local color to it, Sangko holds a native fan for the added cool air.

Beside the hammock snapshot, you find Dikong Udeng in a ala-Juan Tamad act, fully stretched on a grassy ground right under the guava tree, as if waiting for its fruit to fall to his waiting open mouth, who is actually deep in sleep and snoring a Pavarotti melody. No, JunM, Dikong is not in his 501’s. He is in his comfortable purontongs and matching kamiset chino. This guy Conrad looks always cool, di ba?

Inside the bahay, we see Kakang Bert and Kuya Noli partaking cold tuba. In the papag bed, Dodje looks droopy. Not really, Ditz, he is not dead-drunk at all. Dodje does not dig tuba at all. He just had his favorite cold buko juice. He’s just too drowsy in his siesta.

At the batalan, while Inang slices a big, reddish, sweet and very juicy watermelon, Hiling and Betty continue to sneak and munch some cut ones. They would at first accumulate the seeds in their mouth, then playfully approach the window and spit out the melon seeds one by one to a waiting tiklis on the ground as their hole-in-one target.

Victrola

CATHOLIC RADIO UPDATE #273, March 22, 2004
FROM THE EDITOR’S DESK

At my age, one has to remind oneself frequently that not everyone was around when everything happened. I recall one day telling a bunch of teenagers, “You remember that, don’t you? That was when President Kennedy was shot.” “Mr. Dorner!” exclaimed one of the girls, “we weren’t even born yet!”

So it is with my headline two weeks ago calling the Indianapolis group Inter Mirifica “Hoosier Hot Shots.” Now, that is an expression that means something to me. It may still mean something in Indiana —I do not know— but it likely means nothing to anyone in the rest of the country. The expression dates back to the 1930’s, 1940’s, and 1950’s, arising from the name of an Indiana jazz group appropriately named the Hoosier Hot Shots. They played a “rural Midwestern jazz,” starring on clear-channel giants WOWO Fort Wayne and later WLS 890 AM Chicago, “the Prairie Farmer station.” See their website at www.hoosierhotshots.com

Eventually they got their own weekly program on the newfangled Mutual Broadcasting System, and they had a national following, too, who bought their records issued, that I recall, on RCA Victor label. My parents had one of their records, an old 78 rpm 10-inch disc. RCA Victor labels were as black as the disc themselves, and the printing on them was silver. Atop the label was “Nipper,” the trademarked dog listening to “His Master’s Voice” on an old-fashioned “Victrola,” the kind with the horn. Victrola was the trademarked name of the Victor Talking Machine Company’s phonographs. Back in those days, many of the early sound reproducing machines had “-ola” in them. “Victrola” is not a word one hears anymore, although a cousin of mine still referred to phonographs as “Victrolas” well into the 1960’s. Come to think of it, “phonograph” is not a word anyone hears anymore, either. Compact-disc players did not make it obsolete; it was obsolete long before their appearance. “Record player” had pretty much replaced “phonograph,” particularly among the young.

To return to the subject at hand. The early phonographs, or “Victrolas” if you will, were acoustic devices. That is, there were no electronics because reliable vacuum tubes were still in the early stage of development. A needle —shaped like a headless small nail— was screwed into the bottom of the tone arm assembly. Then the needle was gently lowered onto the record and one wound up the spring mechanism to playback the record at 78 rpm, more or less. The grooves were thick and visible, and the vibrations of the needle were conveyed by stable wires to a diaphragm inside the tone arm head just above the needle. The diaphragm vibrated with the vibrations of the needle, and if one placed one’s head close to the tone arm assembly, one could hear the sound faintly. These vibrations were conveyed up a hollow, pivoted tone arm down into a beautifully crafted, hollow wooden cabinet that amplified the sound. Other phonographs used a big flower-shaped horn that had the same effect.

The whole assembly was wonderfully made in fine wood, not wood veneer, and not plasticized wood that afflicts modern civilization. My great aunt had a console Victrola. One raised the handsomely crafted wooden lid (it was not a slab) and a lock assembly held it up. One inserted the handle into the windup mechanism and started the turntable moving. It was a large, chrome plated, heavy turntable measuring 12 inches in diameter, covered with green felt. The tone arm assembly was also chrome-plated. It pivoted in an arc from its wide base that fed directly into the sound chamber of the cabinetry. The tone arm was of several sections, and the head assembly at rest swiveled vertically up and back and rested on the second section when the machine was not being played. Other phonographs used a small cradle on which to rest the tone arm when it was not in use.

On the deck that held the turntable, there was a sunken silver cup for used needles; the more expensive machines had two small cups, one on either side front of the turntable. These needles wore out quickly and were not good for more than seven to ten plays. You bought them in small envelopes at Woolworth’s, Kresge’s, or any record store. The needles were polished steel, not diamond; the latter would come with the appearance of microgroove records in the late 1940’s.

Originally the 78 rpm records were made of carnauba wax, which comes from a South American palm tree. The discs had a pleasant smell about them, particularly when they were a little warm from room temperature. The carnauba wax records had a high melting temperature, but nevertheless you learned not to expose them to heaters, radiators, or put them in direct sunlight for very long. I can still see our family collection, the discs spinning at what today seems to be an inordinate speed, the grooves of the record changing sheen and even slight color gradations if the sunlight coming through the window fell across the spinning disc. Let a disc get a little warped, and it did not take much to warp these old carnauba wax records, and the tone arm rose and fell in gentle undulations over a record whose sheen changed second to second.

By the mid-1930’s, phonographs became electronic, using the new vacuum tubes that glowed red hot and were the size of small pears; some had handsome shapes and were capped at the top. The acoustic tone arm was replaced with a cast metal one (it was still heavy). At the head end a needle was inserted into a small piezoelectric cartridge made of certain metallic salts. The needle vibrations caused minute electric currents to be produced by the salts; these minute currents were fed by two wires into a system of tubes that gradually amplified the sound until it was strong enough to operate a loudspeaker. In the early days, the speakers had their own DC voltage.

All this is gone with the wind. Now even the crop of record players that I knew in my teens, the ones that played microgroove 45’s and 33-1/3 rpm records, are fast disappearing. My wife still uses one in teaching dance, and she is amused at the bewildered look she gets from kids when she tells them to go over and “put the needle on the record.” All they know are CD’s. Those receding 45’s and 33’s were made of vinyl, which had been introduced after World War II for 78’s, advertised then as “unbreakable.” While they were not unbreakable, they were a lot tougher than the brittle carnauba wax and shellac discs of the 1920’s and 1930’s. London Records in particular was able to achieve remarkable high fidelity effect with those new vinyl 78 rpm records, but their days were numbered after Columbia Records (CBS) engineers invented the 33-1/3 long-play record and RCA Victor engineers invented the doughnut-hole 45 rpms, for decades the vehicle for single hit records. By the mid-1950s the 78 rpm record had pretty well disappeared.

Today, one comes across old 78’s in flea markets and antique shops. Most of these records are in sad shape. Many have cracks or “bites” taken out of the edges by a dropped tone arm, or an inadvertent hand pressed down on a stack of records. Many are on labels that have vanished with the relatives and friends who have cherished these recordings (Brunswick, Okeh, Standard, Diamond, Kapp, Majestic). The big bands have a following to this day that continues to grow in size and appreciation, and many of these old 78’s have been remastered digitally and released on compact disc. But many popular singers and other orchestras of those long-gone years have receded into the cobwebbed past and are known only to a few collectors and people like me who are still around. Artists like the Hoosier Hot Shots, Spike Jones and His City Slickers, Bing Crosby, the Andrews Sisters, the Dining Sisters, the Ink Spots, Dinah Shore, Doris Day, Frankie Laine, Vaughn Monroe.

By today’s standards, it was a primitive technology. But back then, it was extraordinary, another one of the revolutionary inventions that had forever changed home entertainment. To think that one could hear on one’s hearth the popular singers and orchestras of the day! Coupled with the growth of radio in the 1920’s and 1930’s, the Victrola became an indispensable appliance in every home. Radio and records then and now were made for each other.

How sad is the passing of time. Those old 78’s belong to the age of vaudeville, network radio, a superb national network of passenger trains, Model T’s, Packards, Lafayettes, trolley cars, popular books with real hardboard covers, pipe smoking, and clothing styles that reflected a personal sense of dignity. The many new inventions such as refrigerators, washing machines, radios, and Victrolas represented real achievements gained by the hard work of millions of Americans who worked 48-hour weeks. Ahead lay a terrible second world war, an interminable cold war, the sexual revolution, the hippie movement, the accelerating collapse of the values and morals that held this country together, the age of self-absorption, a flood of myopic experts who know only their fields, a cynical media, and several generations of youth who see no real purpose in life other than immersion in hedonism.

In attics, in basements, in closets, in the ubiquitous flea markets of America, stacks of old 78’s sit forgotten, forgotten like the people who made them, bought them, played them. We have become digitized.
—Michael Dorner
Subject: Re: Catholic Radio Update #273 and the Victrola
Date: Mon, 22 Mar 2004 09:49:40 +0800
From: Danny Villanueva
To: MikeD509@aol.com
CC: Pearl Quinene


Dear Mike,

Thank you Mike for the interesting CRU issue #273. Besides, news on Radio Horeb, I was really fascinated reading your FROM THE EDITOR’S DESK on the Victrola phonograph. Well, it immediately brought back sweet and happy memories in my childhood. I am forwarding your article to Pearl, my dear sister in San Jose, CA, who will, I am sure, be interested to read it.

Actually, we have a cabinet type Victrola talking machine with the dog facing the horn. It was my parent's beautiful piece of furniture in our sala at home in Tondo, Manila in those days ... from 1950 to 1970. Though we had the electic phonograph already during the 50's to listen to Ricky Nelson's Poor Little Fool, Paul Anka's Diana, and the likes, we kids would every now and then play old records of music and speeches on big black record discs. Sounds were really scratchy... because of the worn out surface, done by the very abrasive needle like-headless nails. Never the less, we were fascinated playing it... as we would not stop to be awed by the big jump of technology from the old Victrola to the hi-fi sound machine. In the mid 70's, the family possessed another cabinet type Victrola from a departed uncle in Manila. That made it 2 Victrolas adorning our sala. And they remained interesting talking pieces among friends and visitors coming to our home.

Crazy me, one time in the 70's, I converted one of the Victrolas to run stereophonic. With the delicate old sound mechanism inside it, I installed an 8-track stereo tape player, complete with stereo speakers that were well crafted inside the cabinet. In a jippy, it played Rey Charles songs and rock and roll music. Oh, my sister Pearl loves the Victrola up to this time. Being in the US, and the owner of the 2 Victrolas, she would ask my sister Daisy and her family (who reside in our old home in Manila) to take care of them, as they are now collectors' items. They are wonderful treasures, indeed.

Thank you, Mike for such a beautiful, reminiscing article on Victrola. It was always around me at home in Manila for 41 years, more than half of my life. The next time I would visit home in Manila, I should touch it with so much love and remembrance.... and do it for my dear sister Pearl, too, who loves them most. God bless...

Best regards,
Danny